5 ways to tell if your Ex is stalking you.
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Relationships can be fun. Once they end, however, they can go one of three ways. The two of you can become friends, you can refuse to see each other, or your ex will go crazy without you and try to win you back.
While that last one can be mildly entertaining, it can also be a very scary experience, especially when you want absolutely nothing to do with him.
This goes for guys, too. There are some pretty insane chicks out there.
Here is a list of ways to tell if your ex is on the crazy stalker side of things.
Why should you listen to me?
Because I'm in this exact situation right now. Let me tell you a story...
Justin and I had a blast at the beginning of our relationship. Toward the end, however, he went a little crazy. He decided to buy me a ring for the Sadie Hawkins dance our freshman year - that should've been a huuuuuuge sign, but I thought it was cute. Of course I did. I was a freshman in high school. Then he started getting overprotective, telling me to stay away from my guy friends, that he was the only boy I should be talking to, and that I should always be at his beck'n call. I was there to make him happy, after all.
Excuse me? What am I, your slave girl? Eff that.
We broke up. We moved on. ... Or at least, I did, anyway.
Two summers later, he started calling my house continuously. Every day, sometimes up to five times a day. I didn't tell my parents, and my younger brother thought it was hilarious. Finally I blocked his number. And then the trouble began...
I'm not going to bother you with all the details. I'm only telling you that I know where you are. I've been there. I am there. I am not enjoying it. And I don't want to see anyone else get hurt by this situation.
1. He "magically" acquires your cellphone number.
How Justin got this, I'm still unsure. But if you never gave your cellphone number to your ex, or if you got a cellphone after you two broke up, and now he's calling you on it, be wary. Find out how he got the number. Did he ask your friends? Coworkers? Family? Did he use some phony line to get it, or did he ask outright?
If he went for the phony line, it's a huge red flag. Block the number. Sure, now that he's got your digits, he'll try calling from other lines to confuse you. Which leads to the ever-obvious notion of don't answer phone calls from numbers you don't know. That should be a huge Duh, but some girls don't get that.
If he asked outright, it may not be a red flag. He's being honest, which is a good sign. Maybe he just wants to be friends? And if that's not on your life's agenda, tell him so; he might actually listen, provided he's still living in Sanity Land.
2. You run into him almost everywhere you go.
How does he know where I am all the time?
More than likely, he's got his friends watching you. He'll give them some bogus tale to get them into doing this, then, when they see you, they'll inform him and TADA! He's right there.
Huge red flag.
That type of behavior is not normal. Then again, don't go freaking out because you saw him at Wal-Mart grocery shopping. He could just be grocery shopping, given he's not aproaching you every chance he gets. Even so, you're catching him hiding behind corners, stealing glances at you, I would advise you remove yourself from the area quickly. That is an obvious stalker tactic.
If he's doing that, he's probably not too bright, either.
Jeeze, what did we ever see in these guys, anyway?
3. He gets a job at a place you visit regularly.
Now, this could just mean he needs a job, and this place was the only place hiring. Nonetheless, it's scary to see him at your favorite restaurant or gas station almost every day, especially if he's been exhibiting stalker-like behaviors.
For Justin, I think he got the job at the Mobile station because it was a few blocks from his house. This isn't the case anymore, but he's still working there. And it creeps me out every time I see him.
Does he insist on ringing you up or being your server? Does he ask you personal questions every chance he gets? Has he memorized your usual order? This last one might just be a sign of observance, but it's still spine-tingling (and not in a good way).
Consider going to a different gas station or restaurant. If you only went there because of convenience, it's not a big deal. If you went there because it's the cheapest station/food joint in town, it's gonna suck a little. But there are other stations and other delectable diners.
4. He asks your friends/coworkers/family weird questions.
"What's she doing today?" "Does she have a boyfriend?" "Do you know where she is right now?" "Could you talk to her about me?"
There are a ton of other creepy curious questions he might ask. Every guy's different. Be sure to talk to your friends about the situation; let them in on the skinny: you're not interested in him; he's creeping you out; "Please, don't talk to him, ok?" Your friends will get the hint quickly.
Oh, and don't take up those offers from your guy pals to let them beat him up. It gets you nowhere. If anything, it makes him worse.
5. He tries to make a pass at you.
This can only happen if you allowed him to hang out with you. He'll try to flirt a little, get the charm flowing, then he'll swing in for the kiss.
They don't always try this maneuver; it depends on his integrity (and whether or not he has any).
DO NOT LET HIM BE NEAR YOU WHILE YOU ARE INTOXICATED OR OTHERWISE INCAPACITATED.
HE WILL TRY TO DO SOMETHING.
YOU WILL NOT LIKE IT.
And you'll want to shower for days afterwards.
Oh, and if he moves in with a mutual friend of yours, avoid the friend's place until your ex is gone. It won't be pretty otherwise. Trust me on that.
I could honestly go on and on and on about tell-tale signs of stalker ex's, but I believe those covered the basics. I don't want to overwhelm you with a bunch of red flags. If your ex is showing two or more of these signs, be careful! And if you're worried about your safety, you can always file a restraining order against him.
Be safe, be cautious, and be smart! Stalkers are scary!
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Okay. So I need some help with a stalking issue I am having. I am only 15 but this guy just won't leave me alone. We had met at a social week long camp and we became good friends. He had flirted his way and I ended up liking him. Biggest mistake of my life. He ended up being a sex addict and wanted me to do thing with him. (he was 15 but is now 16) he wanted me to do things with him but I had refused and broke off all communications with him. Up until 2 months ago he is constantly writting me emails and I ignore him. He is calling my home number atleast 5 times a day, even blocking his number. But even though he lives about a half and hour away from me I know he watches me. The other night, which was new years eve I had gone to a dance and I had gotten home around 12:30 and the minute I walked inside my house he had sent me a message saying, it's official, happy new years! But if he didn't know when I had gotten home he would of sent that to me at 12. Somehow he knew I was still up that night cause he kept texting me even though I haven't responded to a word he has said to me for the past 2 months. Coincidence? No. Cause a few days after christmas he told me was going to call my house phone, but he never called when I was out of the house. He would call the second I walked into the house and never stopped until I have to disconnect it. I have told him to leave me alone but he won't. I know he is following me but there is nothing I can do about it because I don't have proof. What should I do? I am scared he is going to make me do things with him and he has shown sides of abuse..
I've never heard stories like these so I can't give any tipps or something like that. I would just be cautious and never leave the home alone. Talking with your parents must be also a helpfull thing. I'm sure its better to tell them whats going on. And if everything gets worse I would go to the police. I mean, here in Germany you can go in prison for many years, if you, the stalking person, don't stop.
me and my ex split up just before christmas, we remained friends so i thought, then he just started getting nasty to me, saying he is happier now ive gone, ringing my house texting my mobile phone and even waiting in and outside work to talk to me, ive ignored all this, then he appologises well tries, i have none of it and he gets nasty again!! he is jealous always has been of my friends just wants me to himself, i neva went out alone with my friends, i lived with him in my house, if he was at work he would ring me all the time to see wot i was doing etc, i am getting scared now.
This is so stupid. "Stalker" is a label slapped on people like Walmart stickers to kids. What are you people afraid of? Just ignore or talk to the person about normal stuff. Be happy to see them. They would appreciate it and not freak out when you're around, cause they're scared too.
Jazz,
you seem to have no empathy with any of these stories. It may be because you can't comprehend the fear someone may go through because of unwanted attention. I have been through it twice now, I would call one of them a stalker and the other one someone who read the signals wrong. The first came to my place of work every time I had a shift, not suspect to begin with but then as he made me feel more and more uncomfortable with things he said or tried to do with me I started to change my shift patterns. It got so bad that he came in everyday just so he could figure out my new shifts. This was not the worst thing. I lived in house at my place of work and he began to come round when he knew we weren't open just to bump into me. I'm 5'3" and slender with very little muscle power. He was 6'4" and went to the gym daily. He was also 20 years my senior, physically there was no way I would be able to stop him from doing anything to me if he wanted to and it was living with that knowledge I was helpless if he wanted to overpower me, and that is why all these women are suffering. They do not know what the other person is capable of or prone to do after being rejected. Fear of not being able to get away, of not leading a normal life. It is not a sticker slapped on willy nilly, it is real and it should be considered with deep understanding of what the person is feeling who is being 'stalked'.
Excuse me? What am I, your slave girl? Eff that.
That was just fabulistic. Effing fabulistic. And yeah- sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Plenty of gals (and guys) get into similar freakish episodes. Imagine a gal with a bf who has ANOTHER gf ALSO, and then there's the stalker ex! Yikes! That's what I call a web of sexual insanity! Monster males flingin their baby-makers all over the place- makes for a freaky "ex" rated horror flick! Fortunately some monster males (like myself) just want to fill up our 4 gig flash drives with all the images our baby-makers can handle. Thank Gates. (The closest thing to a lovin God I can think of- he gave us the glory of Xbox after all.)
thanks for this information yoy given us really me i cant talk what stalking because my love left me
okay me i was going to say that i am not ready for making love
so what would you will advis4e me
Men are hunters. To them "talking" to or "stalking" a woman is normal. When the problem becomes Violent that is when you have a "stalker". And its funny to think how to solve the problem is by getting another man, or go Lezzbo. This is a tuff world sometimes, so you have to learn how to addapt.
If women just gave it up like they should, there would be no stalking problems.
My ex husband in the last 6 years he has bugged my house taped our daughters conversation when she is in her room, breaks into the house and moves things around just enough to let me know he has been there but I have no proof I put up camera's only to have the DVD removed when I get home, he shows up at my work to see if he can scare me. It is all a deadly game I have decided to arm myself I am getting a 357 or a 9 mm baby eagle. I know one day he will kill me that is evident and walk away free. The police can not and will not do anything until it is to late we need to help ourselves and stop relying on any one else. How many woman have to be killed because their ex is sick? I say arm yourself take shooting lessons go to the gun range and practice and when they come at you in a manner that scares you shoot them aim to kill.
Damn!!!
i must come with new ideas now!!!
KKK Rose
People should take stalking seriously. I am nearly 52 years old and EVERY relationship that I have had since the age 25 has ended with the man stalking me. I have had strangers stalk me and even sociopath preachers who resemble Colonel Sanders and other assorted characters. And women should stop blaming themselves or listening to others who blame them for what has happened to them. I am from the "old school" and when people broke up back in the 60s and the 70s, they moved on! Why can't people do this now? I was in a relationship with a psychopath who did not want me, and when I terminated the relationship, he stalked and threatened me for four confounded years! I waited to become involved again, and here I am again, running like a scared rabbit because I'm being stalked. I thought when folks became my age they would be LESS desirable, but the older I get, the worse it gets. And I am SICK of it. Its enough to make me want to have become a freaking nun. Leave me the hell alone.
gosh im only 14 and my ex boyfriend is like mega in love with me.....hes always wandering where im at...and what im doing and who im with...ugh and he randomly showed up at my school like all last week and im afraid hes gunna do it again this week...can you say SYCHO! i dntt know how to get him away from me...HELPPP!!! please
I am 28 and just recently casually started dating a guy who is 24. From
Day 1 he's been a problem. He smokes weed like it's his last breath 24-7 I told him I hated it
And I dont dte potheads well he said wouldn't, but he lied never
Kept his promise. He doesn't want to work and I refused to move in with him till he got
A job. Well long story short 2 months now I had to give him the boot. He won't let me go and
Refused to let me leave his motel. He choked me and through me on the bed till I pleaded i felt sick I want to go home. He let me go and I have ignored his calls. He stalks my twitter and now is moving next door to me ugh. I am going to get a restraining order on him. He doesn't understand when I told him NO we are not dating anything but he keeps saying in a month I will change c'mon you love me we are together!!! I yelled no we are not leave me alone...yess trust me staplers are bad I want mine gone.. And yes I am a 28 year old male. Yes even us gays have stalker he's tall clans bigger than me
Ugh!!!!!! Please go away stalker
Thanks for the info... My ex hacked all my stuff and hit me and spit on me.. And left over 29 missed calls..
Great job! This is such a common problem! Usually it is happening for a while before you realize its happening!
SOoo, NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE IN ONE OF THESE SITUATIONS. SHOULD HAVE SEEN IT FROM THE BEGINNING! I JUST RECENTLY BROKE UP WITH MY FIANCE OF TWO YEARS. HERE'S MY STORY AND WHAT I AM DEALING WITH NOW: I BROKE UP WITH A PREVIOUS BOYFRIEND AND WANTED TO GO OUT AND HAVE A GRLS NITE OUT (WAS NOT PLANNING ON MEETING NO ONE,IN WHICH CASE DOESN'T HELP IF U GO OUT TO THE CLUB),I ALWAYS NEVER TOOK GUYS AT THE BARS SERIOUSLY B/C MOST OF THEM ARE YOU KNOW, NOT REALLY LOOKING FOR LOVE, OR IN MY CASE WAS (NOTE: DO NOT PLAN TO MEET YOUR 'TRUE LOVE' AT A BAR POINT BLANK!), WELL IT WAS LIKE LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT (BUT IN HONESTY YOU SHOULD ALSO JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVERS!) AND WE INSTINTLY FELL CRAZY FOR EACHOTHER.....WELL I KNEW I WAS PHYSICALLY CRAZY FOR HIM BUT NOT AS MENTALLY AS HE WAS TOWARDS ME...AFTER A FEW MONTHS HE ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM (SO I THOUGHT TO MYSELF 'WHY NOT, LIFE IS ABOUT TAKING RISKS AND CHANCES AFTER ALL THE OTHER LOSERS IVE BEEN WITH) SO OF COURSE I SAID YES. AS MONTHS PASSED I REALIZED HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO HAVE A 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT' UNLESS HE WAS WITH ME (RED FLAG) AND WOULD MAKE ME FEEL GUILTY (BECAUSE US GIRLS TRY TO SEE THE BETTER SIDE OF THESE GUYS AND 'FEEL' WHERE THEY ARE COMING FROM BECUZ THEY PULL THE 'WHAT IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY AROUND') SO I DIDN'T THINK NOTHING ABOUT IT, CUZ AFTERALL IM GETTIN OLDER (27) AND MY 'PARTYING' DAYS WERENT IMPORTANT TO ME, THEN HE ALWAYS CALLED ME X AMOUNT OF TIMES TO SEE WHAT IM DOING AND IF I DIDNT PICK UP WHY IT TOOK SO LONG TO CALL HIM BACK (I MEAN SERIOUSLY, I THOUGHT ONLY GIRLS DID THIS, BUT GUYS DO IT TOO!)...HE BOUGHT ME ALOT OF MATERIAL THINGS (JEWERLRY,CLOTHES) I WAS GETTING SPOILED WHICH I WAS NEVER USE TO...AND EVEN BROUGHT FLOWERS TO MY JOB (ALL THE GIRLS SAYING 'WISH MY MAN DID THAT') YEAH WELL, IT GETS REALLY OLD! HE HAS "ACCIDENTLY" HIT ME IN THE RIBS BECAUSE 'I CAN BE SUCH A B*TCH' SO OF COURSE BECAUSE I 'LOVED' HIM I FORGAVE HIM (RED FLAG!!) WELL THERES TOO MUCH TO GET INTO DETAILS SO THOSE WERE THE BASICS SO TO CUT THE STORY SHORT, ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO I WAS GETTING READY TO TAKE MY NURSING BOARDS AND WE WERE WATCHIN A MOVIE. HE OBVIOUSLY WAS JEALOUS OF MY FRIENDS AND WHEN ONE OF MY GIRLFRIENDS (THAT HE DIDN'T LIKE FOR NO REASON) TEXTED ME I COULD TELL HE WAS BOTHERED BY IT SO I 'TRIED' TO 'TALK' BUT HE REFUSED SO THEN I DECIDED TO GO HOME BECAUSE HE WAS BEING SO IMMATURE, HE TELLS ME IF I LEAVE THAT HE WOULDN'T MOVE IN WITH ME (YEAH LIKE I BELIEVE THAT) SO I STILL GO TO MY CAR, HE FOLLOWS ME, PUNCHES MY WINDOW SO I CRACK IT AND TELL HIM NOT TO EVER TOUCH MY CAR, HE THEN SPITS ON MY FACE (WHICH IS THE MOST DEGRADING THING U COULD EVER DO TO SOMEONE IN MY OPINION) CALLS ME A F*N C*NT! SoOOoO IM THE TYPE OF GIRL THAT USUALLY ISN'T AFRAID OF ANYONE SO I GET OUT THE CAR TO TELL HIM OFF AND HE PUSHES ME (RED FLAG AGAIN DUMMY) SO I TOLD HIM THAT I COULDN'T AND WOULDN'T TAKE THIS CRAP ANYMORE AND BROKE IF OFF WITH HIM (SoO I THOUGHT, MAYBE HE DIDN'T MEAN THAT BUT IT WAS STILL MESSED UP AND A TEAR AND SORRY IS NOT GOING TO CUT IT THIS TIME) SOOO I WAS DEPRESSED THE FIRST WEEK OF THE BREAK UP BECAUSE INSTEAD OF LEAVING ME ALONE TO SHOW HOW SORRY HE WAS, OH HE SURE SHOWED ME. HE STARTED BLOWING UP MY PHONE NUMEROUS TIMES WITH TEXTS AND STARTED TO BECOME THIS ANGRY STRANGER I DID NOT EXPECT (OR MAYBE I DID) THREATENING ME, TRYING TO CALL ME OUT ON FAKE RUMORS AND TRIED TO GET BACK AT ME WITH MY COWORKERS AND TOLD ME HE WOULD COME INTO MY JOB WITH OTHER GIRLS(OH MY GOD I COULD SERIOUSLY WRITE A BOOK ON 1000 WAYS TO PISS YOUR GIRL OFF) AND OF COURSE THERE I AM CRYING BECAUSE I 'LOVED HIM' AND DIDN'T KNOW WHY HE HAD TO GO TO THE EXTREME? WELL HE GOT THE BEST OF ME. HOW? HE WOULDN'T STOP CALLING ME, TALKING TRASH (EX; LIKE HOPE I KILLED MYSELF AND HAVE CHILDREN LIKE MY MENTALLY CHALLANGED UNCLE-OH WAIT U WANT TO BRING MY FAMILY INTO THIS?) SOOOO I ENDED UP PULLING A CARRIE UNDERWOOD ON HIM AND SLASHED HIS TIRE AND WROTE LIAR ON THE SIDE OF HIS CAR (NOTE: NEVER DONE IT BEFORE BUT IT DID FEEL AWESOME! OK, YEAH THAT WAS THE ONLY CRAZY PART OF ME, I SNAPPED, REGRET IT? NO.) THEN HE CALLS THE COPS ON ME AND I TELL THEM I DID IT BUT HE "DIDNT PRESS CHARGES BECAUSE HE CARED' BULLCRAP SO AFTER MY DAD PAID FOR THE DAMAGES THOUGHT HE WOULD LEAVE ME ALONE. NOPE! HE STARTED WATCHING ME AT WORK (WAITING IN THE PARKING LOT TIL I GOT OFF) FOLLOWED ME TO THE BANK AND TRIED TO BEG FOR HIS FORGIVENESS ON HIS KNEES AND CRIES....NOW OF COURSE LADIES, WE KNOW HOW THIS GOES, I START TO CRY AND TELL HIM HOW MUCH I HATE HIM FOR ALL THE DRAMA HE WAS PUT ME THRU AND AT THE SAME TIME IM SERIOUSLY DEPRESSED BECAUSE I THOUGHT HE REALLY WAS THE ONE AND NEVER KNEW HE COULD BE SO DIRTY. THE STORY DOESN'T END, MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY KEPT TELLING ME THAT I DESERVED BETTER AND BLAH BLAH BLAH, WELL U DON'T REALLY WANT TO HEAR THE TRUTH FROM PPLE THAT ACTUALLY CARE SO HE STILL CONTINUED TO CALL AND TEXT UNTIL I GOT SO ANNOYED AND PICKED UP HIS PHONE CALL (THE WHOLE 'BLOCK' THE NUMBER CRAP DOESN'T WORK BECAUSE HE WILL STILL CALL U FROM A RESTRICTED NUMBER OR OTHER PHONE LINES) AND I "HAD TO LISTEN" TO HIM BECAUSE HE WAS JUST ANGRY AND WAS HURT (YOU KNOW, MAYBE HE IS, NO....HE IS HURT BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE HIM THE RIGHT TO TREAT YOU LIKE HE'S BETTER THAN YOU AND TALK DOWN TO YOU LIKE U NEVER MEANT NOTHING OR THREATEN YOU OR EVEN STALK TO! **NO EXCUSE!!** MY TEARS WEREN'T ENOUGH, EVEN THO I BEGGED HIM TO STOP!.....SO AT THIS POINT I ALREADY KNEW THAT I COULD NEVER BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT EVEN THOUGH IT HURTS BECAUSE IF YOU REALLY LOVE SOMEONE, YOU DO THE RIGHT THINGS AND ALL OF THOSE ARE NOT!..SO LAST WEEK COMES AROUND AND STARTED STALKIN ME THROUGH FACEBOOK AND TOLD ME LIES ABOUT 'SOMETHING IS ABOUT TO GO DOWN' AND EVEN STARTS CALLING MY GUY FRIENDS OFF MY FB LIST THAT DON'T EVEN KNOW WHATS GOING ON! I AM A PRIVATE PERSON BUT HE MADE IT EVERYONES BUSINESS TO TRY TO MAKE ME LOOK LIKE I WAS THIS MEAN MESSED UP PERSON. HOW OLD IS THIS GUY? 32! YEAH U THINK SOMEONE AT THIS AGE WOULD ME MUCH MORE MATURE BECAUSE THATS THE REASON THAT I THOUGHT GUYS AT THIS AGE WERE LIKE BUT NO IT CAN BE AT ANY AGE! HE EVEN TRIED TO IMPERSONATE A POLICE OFFICER TO GET ME FIRED! HOW LOW CAN YOU GO?!? THEN AFTER I CHANGE MY NUMBER THREE TIMES! I FINALLY TELL HIM THAT THIS HAS ALL GOT TO STOP AND I HAVE ALL THE EMAILS, TEXTS, AND VOICEMAILS ALL SAVED (I STILL DO) AND HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO GO TO THE POLICE STATION TO FILE A REPORT! SO HE TOOK ME SERIOUSLY AND LEFT ME ALONE FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS. OK, NOW HERE WHERE I MAKE THE STUPID MISTAKE AGAIN. I THINK THAT IM FEELING OKAY AND WANT TO CELEBRATE NOW THAT I HAVE PASSED MY BOARDS AND THATS ALL I WANTED FOR MONTHS! SO I DESERVE IT, RIGHT? SO I END UP GOING OUT AND GET PRETTY DRUNK AND MAKE THE SMART DECISION TO GO STRAIGHT HOME INSTEAD OF HANGING OUT WITH PEOPLE AFTER HOURS(YEAH I KNOW, PLEASE DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE!)...SO AS IM DRIVING...ALONE....AND ITS QUIET, I TURN THE RADIO ON AND OF COURSE I WANTED TO HEAR LOVE SONGS THAT WOULD ONLY REMIND ME OF OUR MEMORIES TOGETHER AND I START CRYING...BOO-HOO..SO THEN I THOUGHT THAT I WOULD MAKE THIS GENIOUS IDEA THAT WOULD LET ME KNOW IF HE REALLY CARED (IT'S CALLED 'DENIAL'), I HAD MY GIRLFRIEND CALL HIM AND PRETEND SHE MET HIM AT THE CLUB LAST WEEK AND HE GAVE HER HIS NUMBER, SO YES HE RESPONDS AND EVEN TELLS HER 'SEND ME A PICTURE OF YOU CUZ I DON'T REMEMBER', I GET PISSED...I JUST 'HAD' TO CALL HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW I FELT! (NOTE: DO NOT TRY TO GET BACK AT SOMEONE WHO IS ALREADY SHOWING ALL SIGNS OF 'CRAZY') TELLING HIM I KNEW HE WAS MESSED UP FOR BLAH BLAH BLAH, IM GOING OUT IN MY NEW SEXY DRESS THIS WEEKEND BLAH BLAH BLAH AND HANG UP. YEAH I KNOW. STUPID. BROUGHT WORLD WAR 2 BACK! NOW HE'S SUPER PISSED AND SAYING THAT HE WILL BEAT ANY GUY WHO TRIES TO TALK TO ME BLAH BLAH BLAH.....IM THINKING 'WOOOOW, WHY DID I DRINK SO MUCH AGAIN??' (NOTE: DO NOT GET WASTED BECAUSE YOU THINK IT WILL MAKE U FEEL BETTER BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY/NIGHT WHATEVER, DEPRESSION AND ANGER KICKS IN) SO I KNEW I HAD TO MAKE PEACE WITH HIM BY TELLING HIM HE'S RIGHT, IM WRONG BLAH BLAH BLAH AND LETS JUST MAKE PEACE AND IT WAS 'MY FAULT'. NOW SERIOUSLY, I KNOW THAT WAS RETARDED
My fiance has an ex that wont stop. Only a short two month relationship with this guy he has money he has nice car. But for some reason see him self as better than me. Doesnt understand its him his controlling and antics that make him undesireable. He calls then stops calls then stops. I know its not her. We made a pack about him. I even tried to talk to him to mellow his flow. No go. He called recently its her b day I hate iPHONES I will just say that. He not stable and says one day he respects me even then next no I dont. Its been 2 years since they broke up. What the hell. This guy is not stable. She has been avoiding him but that contact of calling that thing just is out of hand. I feel I need to arm my self to stop this sort of thing. Just to for piece of mind in are home. We want marriage carreers and kids this guy scares me. I always had a drop them adittude with ex women she doesnt now she see why. Only e x that I ever lost it was my 5 year she didnt help. Contacting me and saying this are you ok this that asking advise. Other men and even my friend she went after. So She was wolf in sheeps clotheing She almost got the best of me but I worked on me and my issues. And she continued to flounder. I so I sit hear and know what its like to be the stalker but Some men got that heart that they can stop and realize what is up and change but guys dont force your new found realization on women they dont like it and it drives them farther away. I learned the hard way with bull from my ex and run around. She found it pleasurable. So my instance was different than most she just milked it then got up set when it went a little wierd. End relationships clean folks. No games or head trips. Me and my fiance are driven for future marriage family happiness money travel. But its sad to say that some men can go over board more than you could ever dream. Even kill. Let it go its hard time out for your self is better then chasing.
Ok, so I was married we split up I began dating a friend of mine tht lives far away. It was more a weekend hang out drink have fun etc. Well we got into a fight one day n he said I hope u dont think im onli friggin u. I got mad and went off so then he says he only said tht to piss me off. Why would anyone do tht? Im not stupid so I played along with his game. He kept getting weirder and weirder til I told him we should jus be friends. The very next day he had a new gf, but spread lies about me, had lights and water cut off at mi house, spread lies n rumors, called dcs and told I i abuse mi kids, hacked into mi Facebook and then lied to att and got a SIM card to mi phone number and made up a horrible extended absence greeting on mi phone. Finally things calmed down I thought, 2 days later he got online and told everyone mi address, phone number, kids names, car I drive, etc all mi info. He claims he dumped me and never loved me, so if he's so happi w this new girl, why won't he leave me alone?? C'mon I need opinions, im at mi wits end
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Okay this is my story. I'm not sure if either one of them is concerted stalking or not but I know one thing I do feel super uncomfortable.
Firs off my problem revolves around two guys. One of them I don't think I have to worry about anymore. Thank god.
The one that disappeared out of my life, which I'm grateful for. I had been in a relationship with him for 5 months. Within this relationship I was pressured to have sex (I was a virgin). After he got my virginity ; He lost interest in sex for about a month or so and then he started pounded me about it. He got super mad and told me I didn't love him. So the next mourning I gave in && it became a routine. He had bought me a phone as soon as we got together he use to take the phone away from me and read my messages. As if I had something to hide.
He had been cheating on me but that is besides the point. Now on the sex part I never told my family because he told me they would be disappointed in me & never let me see him again. This relationship was the worse one of my life. I'm 17 now. I just had turned 16. When we broke up I thought that was the end of him. He stayed a friend on facebook but me and him didn't talk. Till one day I got a message in my inbox supposedly from his parents saying that I needed to call them right away. Giving me a number. I got worried because I guess even after all the bullshit I still kinda cared so I called the number to find out it was nothing.
He began to beg me back ;; telling me how he loved me and blah blah blah. He begged me to let him come pick me up and me and him hang out. But I didn't go which pissed him off. I ended up blocking him on facebook. So that's the end of him right? Wrong. I have a small family based store below my house ; Like literally below. The owner informed me that the same time my lil sibling was to get off from school (Which I normally went and waited for) He had came to the store to walk around like he was waiting then he left.
A little close to home? Yes! Then I found out a few months later that he had been asking my teachers at my school How I was doing in school and other stuff. Now as far as If he's still keeping tabs on me I actually don't know !
Secondly. I have a current ex. Who I broke up with in November. After finding out about him cheating with his ex girlfriend (who would do anything for him and thinks everything he says is the freaking gospel ) This girl is just like me ! Same hair color, eye color & almost same body type. She's just taller and way younger. We have similar likes ;; And possible career paths. Weird Huh?
I blocked him on facebook because he had got where he was constantly on my facebook. But it didn't stop there... He had my number so he'd text me. && Make me feel like shit for not being with him.
But let me back up. The first time I felt uncomfortable is when I went to walmart with his ex ; who became my friend.... weird story ! He had two different people follow us around the store wanting to know what we were doing...
Then he started using a common friend's facebook to stalk my facebook...
This guy i can't shake him... He makes me feel like shit ;; He's keeping tabs on me and I honest to god don't know what to do. Hes too scared to come close to my house because he knows my brother would beat the shit out of him. But he has recently became friends with some of my friends. And hangs out with my best friend a lot.... So if I got to her house I risk seeing her. That works for two of my friends. Maybe it's me be obsessing but I do feel uncomfortable about this boy.. Could he become a stalker? Or has he already became one...
He's so gone, click click disabled like a virtual device stalker IT they think udon't know they stalk thru ports and ghost tunnels. BYEBYE
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I HAVE BEEN STALKED FOR OVER TEN YEARS.I WAS IN LOVE WITH A GUY WHO DID NOT LOVE ME SO I TRIED TO END IT NICELY.NEVER DID THAT HAPPEN HE FOLLOWS ME EVERYWHERE AND LIVES NEAR ME SOMEWHERE CLOSE AND WATCHES ME ALL THE TIME .HE THINKS I DONT KNOW BUT I KNOW HE IS ALWAYS WHEREI AM.I NEVER REALLY SEE HIM BUT I KNOW HE IS THER TRUST ME I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP.I KNOW IT ISNT LOVE BECAUSE HE COULD BE HE WITH ME BUT HE ALWAYS KEEPS HIS DISTANCE.NOYHING I CAN DO THIS SUCKS AND SO DOES HE .I WANT TO GET A BOYFRIEND THAT LOVES ME BUT MENTALLY I CANT.BELIEVE ME HE FOLLOWS ME TO WORK,VACATION,PARTIES.FRIENDS HOUSES AND IS ALWAYS LURKING /WHY I MAY NEVER KNOW
I've been going thru the samething the only thing is my ex stalks me with his new girls and the new girls stalk me on top and tell stories, they take my mail etc.
My x has secretively bugged our home...set up voice activated recorders...watched our son have sex through a whole in the drywall...damaged our sense of security! My kids no lo.ger feel safe and neither do I!!
I have been separated for 6u yrs off and on and he thinks he owns me!! So tired in V.A!!!
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theres/a/creepy/guy/staring/at/me! 3 years ago
mine's not stalking..but i did tell him off pretty good when he tried to get back w/ me!!